If you don’t feel like a fuck yes, you need to tell them to fuck off.
If you don’t feel like they’re a fuck yes, you need to tell them to fuck off.
The biggest problems in dating stem from:
Staying in connections where you don’t feel like a fuck yes, in turn, you say fuck off to yourself.
Staying in connections where they’re not a fuck yes to you, in turn, you say fuck off to yourself.
A great relationship = two fuck yes’s who start fucking
A “FUCK YES” + A “I DON’T FUCKING KNOW” = A FUCKING DISASTER
A “I’M NOT FUCKING SURE” + AN “I DON’T KNOW FUCKING MAYBE” = CLUSTER FUCK SHIT STORM OF AN EMOTIONAL TORNADO
Dating has two options:
We say fuck off to someone else or we say fuck off to ourselves.
Those are the options.
So if we don’t have the courage to say fuck off to someone else, we will continue to live a life that says fuck off to our most expanded and truest selves.
You’re a people pleaser? You are an expert at saying fuck off to yourself.
You’re afraid of rejection and play small as a result? You’re an expert at saying fuck off to yourself.
You don’t think you’re worthy of great love? You’re an expert at saying fuck off to yourself.
Do you wanna live your live constantly saying fuck off to yourself?
Because so many people stick around in connections where they don’t feel like a FUCK YES again and again and believe it’ll change.
This is how a FUCK YES relationship starts.
“I’m a fuck yes to myself!”
I’m a fuck yes to myself too!”
“I’m a fuck yes to you!”
“I’m a fuck yes to you also!”
“You read my fucking mind!”
So a FUCK YES relationship is literally impossible without first learning what it means to be a FUCK YES to yourself.
But the only way we get there is by saying FUCK OFF to most things.
Okay…I’m not actually telling you to say fuck off. But I kind of am. The best “fuck offs” are just said politely. So just politely tell them to fuck off.
“I’m really sorry…you’re incredible and I’m grateful we got to know each other, but this isn’t a full hearted yes for me.”
NOW FUCK OFF!!
What this means is you say fuck off without ever actually saying fuck off. When you can learn to say fuck off compassionately, the quality of your life immediately transforms.
When we say fuck off to more things we move ourselves towards more things that TURN US THE FUCK ON.
And our fuck off redirects them to more things that TURN THEM THE FUCK ON.
The more courageously we can say fuck off = the more abundance of things that turn us the fuck on.
The quality of our life and relationships is contingent on our ability to say FUCK OFF to things that don’t TURN US ON.
Funny thing is when we become a pro at saying fuck you politely…people actually enjoy us saying FUCK OFF to them because we’re compassionate but still boundaried.
“Like god damn! I know you just told me to fuck off but there is literally nothing I can argue with because that fuck off was so well sculpted that it actually kind of gave me a fucking boner…and I know you just rejected me…but I’m rock hard right now.”
“One time a girl told me to FUCK OFF over text and her FUCK OFF message was so fucking kind I literally had to pull over to the side of the road and fucking masturbate in the back seat.”
The problem friends — when we create a life where we constantly say fuck off to ourselves we don’t even know what fucking turns us on.
We might be a fuck yes to someone but we will say fuck off out of fear. When we say fuck off out of fear it’s actually us saying fuck off to ourselves.
Someone might actually be a fuck yes but we say fuck off too quickly because we don’t give them a fucking chance to be a fuck yes because we’re picky as fuck and a fucking perfectionist who constructs their dating and relational life like a fucking fairy tale on fucking crack.
Someone might be actually be a fuck yes to our soul but we tell them to fuck off because our FUCK OFF & FUCK ON on filter is so fucked up because we’ve built a life saying fuck off to ourselves because we never learned what it was like to be a FUCK YES to anyone.
I fucking feel for you.
But when clean the fucking lens of our FUCK OFF & FUCK ON filter by becoming an expert on what turns us the fuck off and what turns us the fuck on and figuring out what fucked everything up in the first place and becoming the Shakespeare of telling people to fuck off…everything changes.
Life becomes a FUCK YES of hard boners and pointed nipples.
This is healed through relationships where you feel like a FUCK YES.
This is healed by beginning to get more and more comfortable saying FUCK OFF.
At first saying fuck off is going to be fucking uncomfortable. You’re going to want to tell yourself to fuck off but fucking don’t. Keep your fuck offs directed at what doesn’t turn you the fuck on.
The more you get used to saying FUCK OFF, the better you’re going to get at saying FUCK OFF. Till eventually your FUCK OFF’S are so well sculpted they will literally make people so fucking horny with respect for you.
When someone tells me to FUCK OFF in a shitty asshole way? I tell them to fuck off back and we get in a fuck off war where nobody fucking wins.
But when someone tells me to FUCK OFF politely? I get so excited I stuck a finger in my ass.
If you want to build a life and create a relationship that feels like a FUCK YES and TURNS YOU THE FUCK ON, you’re going to have to become an expert at saying FUCK OFF and start saying FUCK YES to yourself.
There are two choices in life.
You say FUCK OFF to what doesn’t serve you.
Or you say FUCK OFF to yourself.
What’s it going to be?
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